Forever Young

 
There comes a point in our life when we're officially an adult.  Suddenly we're old enough to vote, drink and engage in other adult activities.  Suddenly people expect us to be responsible, serious and grown-up.  We get taller.  We get older, but do we ever really grow up?

In some ways we grow up.  We get married.  We have families.  We get divorced.  But for the most part we can still have the same problems that we did when we were 15.  No matter how much we grow taller, grow older, we are still forever stumbling, forever wondering...forever young. 

Secret Sex

How many of us out there are having sex with people that we are ashamed to introduce to our friends and/or family? Is secret sex the ultimate form of intimacy since it existed in a pure state exempt from the judgment of the world or is it just another way in which we deny our feelings and emotionally compartmentalize our lives?

Have you ever felt like you were in a niche? Certain events? Certain restaurants? Certain people? Like you were a particular fragment of the kind of person someone thinks they should be dating versus secret sex?


July 11, 2007

"Poor Single You" Looks. Loser, Leper, Whore!

Why does a 30-40 something single female, never married, no children, considered or thought of as possibly gay? When does single translate into being gay?

Why don't I like being single? Family functions when you're the only one that's not married and they sit you at the kids table or when two people eat off of the same fork, awww. Another time I dislike being single is when married friends and friends in general "surprise" fix you up or in the term that I use "pimp" you out.

Sifting through the rubble of my marriage skirmish, I had a thought. Are married people the enemy? Is there a single cold war between married and single? Maybe the fight between the married and single is like the war in Northern Ireland. They were all basically the same but somehow wound up on different sides. Maybe the cold war isn't about hate. Maybe it's about fear, fear of the unknown. Married people don't hate singles. They just want us figured out.

It's circumstantial that I'm single.






June 26, 2007
2:27 pm
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