Cry Wolf Part II

There will come a time in your life when you feel utterly and completely alone.  No prospects of rescue from the loneliness.

They say instinctively animals remember their way back home.  Maybe it's a sense of smell or place or memory.   We are more fragile.  In an instant our memories can become shadows.  The distance between ourselves and the ones we love can begin to seem insurmountable.  All some of us can do is to stay close to home and hope that we will not be forgotten.  But in the end, remembering is not entirely up to us, neither is coming home.

Avoid Dating a Sociopath

Sociopaths are common in today's dating scene. You may even be dating one right now! According to the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSMMD) a sociopath is "a person with a psychopathic personality who's behavior is antisocial and who lacks a sense or moral responsibility or social conscience." But how does sociopath behavior manifest itself?

1. Sociopaths lie....A LOT. They're usually very believable liars and rarely tell the truth. They aren't concerned with what's real or truthful and that makes it easier for them to deceive you.
2. Sociopaths lack remorse or guilt. They don't have empathy for other people's feelings. They don't take responsibility for their actions or accept blame.
3. Sociopaths are incapable of feeling real love. Because sociopaths make more enemies than friends, they don't give or receive love easily. Their deceit usually runs in their relationships.
4. Sociopaths are irresponsible. They're usually unreliable and often oblivious to the harm or disappointment they cause others.
5. Sociopaths are impulsive. They often exhibit behaviors of promiscuity, infidelity, alcohol abuse, yada, yada.

Are you dating a sociopath?

Myths and Relationships

Do modern-day singles need modern day myths just so they can date? Heroes, boyfriends, cyclops and divorced guys. Are they really that different? The primitive Greeks clung desperately to myths to explain the random hopeless of their, at times, miserable lives. Do modern-day singles need modern-day myths just to help us get through our random and sometimes miserable relationships? Are we willing to believe anything to date?

In every myth there comes a time when mere mortals are given a test. The way they respond usually determines whether they find paradise or find themselves tied to a big rock for all eternity. In turn, I feel at some point my mystified myths and relationships will become real as I don't want to be tied to a big rock for all eternity.

August 16, 2007

The Mysteries of Love and Lust

Across the room you see a handsome stranger. He smiles. You smile. Before you know it, you've fallen. Over the next few weeks he explodes into your world. Friends and family are demoted. You think about him constantly. You in a delirious state. Except, that is, when you're plunged into despair because he forgets to call.

Why does one handsome stranger make your heart pound while another leaves you cold?

Such a mystery which is just as bewildering as trying to read between the lines.

May 17, 2007

Serial Dating 101

Not having been on a dating website in forever, much less dating at all, I browsed one for a few days. It never fails. I seem to attract the stalker, or the now "serial dater". A more politically correct term for serial dater would the infamous "player"! There's so many people out there, men and women, who engage in this process of systematically dating an obscene amount of people in a short span of time. There's no limitation whatsoever when it comes to serial dating, including Internet dating, long distance flirtation, phone service dating, blind dating, bar dating, match making, one night stands, friends with benefits and personal ad surfing. How can people find their mate with insatiable amounts of dating with no real intention of finding true love? Dating. It's over-freakin' rated.